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Just for that??!!??

Wtf? Was my first thought a few days ago. Currently I am sitting in a coffee shop having a Mocha Latte. Thought I would finally get around to posting. Anyway........I got an instant message from an old "friend" (for lack of better wording at this moment). I had not talked to him in over a year. Was wondering wtf he was doing messaging me out of the blue. Well, I found out soon enough because I am just nosey. After getting the niceties out of the way, my nosey self inquired as to his current relationship. I just asked if he married her yet. He said not yet but he will be getting married in 24 days (which makes it the last weekend in January). I told him congrats. Personally I think it is about time! I have not talked to him nor seen him online or offline since. Do you think he just wanted me to know he was getting married? If it is so great & exciting why not tell me sooner? Maybe he wanted to........ you know.......one more time before he tied the knot? Heck, I don't know the answer to any of those questions. Pure speculation on my part. Our "friendship" involved hotels and sex - off and on for several years. Need I say more? I didn't know much about him (his habits, idiosyncrasies, etc.) but on the other hand I knew alot about him as a person, and yet not everything. We live several hours apart. But, being me, I have wondered what things would have been like had I lived closer or had I moved closer. And MAYBE if I wasn't a commitment-phobe .......well.... you can't change the past. Nor does it pay to live in the past. What could have been - that's a dangerous place to wander. I sure don't mind visiting the land of *What Could Have Been*, more commonly known as the land of *What If*, but it is not somewhere I prefer to dwell. What-If's can make you crazy and cause you to lose out on a lot of life. Yes, I came to care about him as a person. But - I am not the type that likes strings, commitments, etc. I do expect honesty and respect. In a committed relationship you get into trust issues too often. The question I do know the answer to is: How do *I* feel about him getting married? Good for him!!